Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.My daughter is no longer my responsibility. I will do my best to vet her potential husband and interrogate him. I will not be judged by God for not protecting my daughter from her husband after they had married.
Genesis 2:24, ESV
My daughter signed the contract to submit to her husband for life. Her only remedy is to divorce him. Until she divorces him, I really do not want to undermine the authority that the husband has over his wife. In the end of the day, the husband will be judged for how he leads his wife. The wife will be judged with how she follows.
I'm not going to White-Knight on her behalf like many Pastors would (https://blog.jeffersonkim.com/2020/01/pastors-white-knighting-to-rescue.html), and if she decides to divorce, I would not hesitate to confront her for her sin.
I would definitely put pressure on her to settle the divorce in an amicable way, but in all likelihood, she would've had a pre-nup.
Custody is a tough situation that I would need to think about more, but the children are the father's responsibility, not hers. So in that sense, I would defer to the children staying with the father.
In all likelihood, a daughter of mine that divorces under frivolous reasons would most likely not come to me for help, because she knows I would probably call her out for her bullshit and side with her husband.
It's most likely a daughter seeking divorce was encouraged to do so by her own, divorced mother.