But what happens when the married husband receives an orgasm at the same frequency as a daily masturbator? It's not as though marriage suddenly transformed his mind and body to react differently to an orgasm. De-motivation and energy draining still occurs. The man still needs to expend great amounts of effort to provide for his wife and family.
The cycle looks something like this.
- After orgasm, chemicals get released into the bloodstream causing drowsiness and lower energy levels
- These chemicals affect men in different ways. There are some men where the lowered energy levels last 24 hours.
- With lowered energy levels, the husband has less motivation to provide emotional stimulation to his wife
- The wife feels emotionally neglected.
If you can imagine a situation where the man has an orgasm, every single day, you can understand that the man will have lower energy levels to emotionally satisfy his wife. If the wife continues and gives the husband orgasms on a daily basis, she is also reinforcing the emotional neglect she is receiving because the husband is already getting what he wants. The husband is also in a constant state of low energy.
For boxers and martial artists, it is traditionally taught that you don't have sex before a fight. In football, they'll say no sex during playoffs. There's all kinds of examples you can look up on Google.
This guy says optimally no sex 1 month before a fight, and minimally 2 weeks:
Every man's energy levels are different. If a husband does not have enough energy to properly fulfill his responsibilities to his wife, he should be looking at what he's expending his energy at. It may be other activities like sports, video games, and even a high frequency of sex.
Perhaps he needs to re-prioritize where he spends his energy and allocate it instead toward the emotional needs of his wife and the neglect of his other duties.
And just to be clear, I'm not saying lower your frequency of sex with your wife to 1x/month or 1x/2 weeks. This is where wisdom plays in. It will be different for every husband in context to his personality, hobbies, wife, and responsibilities.
Maybe you're one of the lucky ones where sex every day satisfies your wife's emotional needs. In this case, trying to lower your sex frequency would be neglecting your duties to your wife. You lucky dog, you.