If I had been paying any attention to the Bible as reality, rather than figurative stories, I would've completely understood this and saved myself immense trouble trying to "reason" with people.
Reading Aristotle's Rhetoric, Vox Day's Blog, SJWs, and numerous personal encounters, including with intimate family members, has finally gotten this through my thick skull. (See Rhetoric vs Dialectic)
Back in college, which is around the early 2000s, I was reading a lot of Christian Apologetics, such as from Lee Strobel. One of the themes was the concept of Moral Relativism vs Absolutism. You don't hear this argument much in churches anymore because Moral Relativism essentially won in American churches.
Because I came to a logical understanding toward Absolutism and the fallacy of Moral Relativism, I wrongly assumed that was the way to convince others.
I wrongly assumed that if other people simply heard and understood the arguments that lead me to my conclusions, that everyone else would reach the same conclusions.
This inaccurate mindset led me to become exceedingly frustrated and expend much more energy than I should had trying to "convince" others explaining the underlying logic systems.
What I should had done, was simply shake the dust off my sandals and walk away.
With my wrong assumption that "everyone else is just like me," I overly committed to those who were completely uninterested in Logos.
What happens when you have a family member, that when you are attempting to explain the reasoning of your decision along with their pattern of rebellion, plays the ultimate, rhetorical counter-argument: "Well, that's YOUR Truth!"
That is their justification for their actions to undermine your authority as head of household. You cannot argue for Moral Absolutism with a Moral Relativist. They are already lost.
As an Employer, it would be easy. They would be fired. If they don't comply to the rules I set in the household, they are gone.
For family members, this becomes more complicated. For children, it's not as complicated as it seems. In the Old Testament, these rebellious children would be stoned to death.
In the New Testament, I will extend as much effort as Jesus did to try and "convince" Judas from ultimately betraying him. I will extend as much grace as Jesus did toward the Pharisees. This is the extent of influence blood has on Logos (Matthew 10:34-39):
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person’s enemies will be those of his own household. Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And whoever does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.At no time in both the Old Testament Patriarchs or Jesus do you see him beg any of the individuals who rejected Him, to obey Him. It was ultimately their choice, and I'm sure Jesus was busy enough focusing on those who were interested in following Him.
If Jesus did not "convince" Judas, who was within his close 12 disciples, what are my expectations to be able to ever "convince" my own wife or children?
None. I will state my arguments as logically, thoroughly, and as detailed as possible. My arguments will be primarily dialectic, and if they can't accept it, I will not force the issue.
When they decide to stop following me and act in rebellion, then I am no longer under any further obligation to provide protection to them (except by the State).
The level of betrayal I received from my ex-wife for my refusal to submit to her rhetoric is reprehensible even among unbelievers. To have it done to me by someone who claims to be a "believer" and to have other so-called Christians support her rather than condemn her actions outright (even by Pastors), is testament to the level of evil that exists in churches. The God they serve is the one of this world and not of the Bible.
In the end, I came out ahead and in a much better position despite the circumstances I was placed in. The reality is that betrayal happens even to those who are perfect, such as Jesus.
Jesus never bent the knee despite the betrayal and his foreknowledge of the consequences that were coming.
If I already know that the level of betrayal I received from my ex-wife led me to a better place, how much more will I be able to withstand lesser levels of dishonesty and rebelliousness from my own children in the future?