According to today's morality, "Shaming" is a sin.
"God loves you for who you are."
"You are fearfully and wonderfully made."
So therefore, if someone criticizes anything about you that you identify yourself with, saying "you have to change," then that person is toxic, a bully, and abusive. Welcome to the world of "victim consciousnesses."
What if you identify yourself as homosexual, lazy, or any other sins the Bible explicitly calls out?
Now the fool will have to choose between which ultimately holds the highest authority. For the individual who ultimately chooses the lies of Satan over the Truth of Scripture, their testimony will go something like this:
All my life, I've harbored this deep secret within me that I was deathly afraid to be discovered about. I was taught that it was wrong. As I grew up, I realized it was something that I could not change. It is who I am. I realized that it was actually everyone else that was wrong. I was tired of being wrong. I was tired of feeling ashamed all the time.
Eventually, I discovered that it wasn't I, who was wrong, but it was everyone else who were bullies and abusers. It wasn't me, but it was the fault of everyone who could not love me for who I am, warts and all.
I found podcasts, YouTube videos, and even Christian articles online that told me that God accepts me for who I am. I no longer need to fight who I am. I can be free. I can LIVE free!
I don't have to be ashamed anymore! In fact, I REFUSE to be feel ashamed or hate myself for WHO I AM!
This narrative is something easy to imagine someone who is homosexual saying that finally gets WOKE and decries the ABUSE they've been receiving as Christians. In Christianity, "shame" is often used in the place of "conscience" and the Holy Spirit which convicts us of our sin.
But, what of a wife that identifies herself as being lazy? How does she see the husband that is always correcting her to maintain checklists around the house and has to constantly correct her?
The wife, identifying as lazy, is naturally also foolish, as Proverbs 26:16, ESV states:
The lazy person thinks he is wiser than seven people who give sensible answers.
Let's discuss a lazy and foolish wife that finally "stands up for herself" and "stops being a doormat." She increases her defiance against her husband who keeps trying to have her maintain a checklist of tasks to complete in the household. She says to herself with indignation:
How dare he force me to maintain a checklist! I'm not his employee! I'm his wife! He needs to love me for who I am. I am not perfect. So, I'm a little lazy and I forget things. So what?! All my girlfriends don't have to maintain checklists. I'm tired of being wrong! And finally, I found some pastors, podcasts, and websites that tell me that my husband getting angry and yelling at me because I'm lazy and don't maintain checklists is ABUSIVE!
And when I try to stand up for myself and tell him that I don't have to take his abuse anymore, he tries to tell me that I'm still wrong! He thinks his requests are reasonable. Well, they aren't. They are demeaning. And I'm not going to take it anymore.
I have felt so much shame because I don't "live up to his standards" over the years we've been married. I have prayed to God that he would change me for so long and I never change. I have finally accepted myself. I AM Lazy. That's how God made me and God accepts me for who I am. My husband should just accept who I am. I simply cannot tolerate living in a marriage with a man who will keep abusing me my entire life for WHO I AM. I finally found the courage to say, "NO MORE!"
To quote the prophet, Milo Yiannopoulos: "Feminism is cancer."